I’m a victim of looks and I have to say that my experience with dating handsome men has been tough. Are you dating someone and the situation often gives you anxiety and jealousy from the bees swarming your ladyboy date ?
I’m not saying that you’re not a looker and you’re insecure but this really happens when dating someone so aesthetically universal lol.
Let it be known that I am not discouraging anyone from dating someone who is considered to be very good-looking. I’m just going to give some tips on how to deal with the situation solely from my experience.
First of all, I am not saying that I am too ugly from my past partners lol. It’s just that since my past partners were men, I tend to get more “competition”. Both men and women in the LGBTQ and out can potentially be attracted to him.
Dealing with Yourself First
I’m a transgender woman and not for the mainstream so he gets less competition if I’m making any sense at all lol. To be honest, I’m used to people looking at me instead of my date when I go out but when I’m dating a really handsome guy, I notice a huge decrease from the looks I get that is being channeled into him.
So, how do you deal with dating someone extremely beautiful ? Break up with her! Just kidding lol.
I know how this sounds mundane and cliched but remind yourself that beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Maybe it’s just you who’s thinking she’s all that because you’re smitten lol. Nothing wrong with that but sometimes, our minds play tricks on us which unnecessarily incites our insecurities.
If she’s indeed gorgeous and has titles to back it up (a beauty queen perhaps?), refer to section 1A lol.
Accept the FACT
Yes, Brad, your ladyboy date is, in fact, a demi-goddess living amongst us humble servants. The people in the room agree and the crown (can be literally and figuratively) speaks for itself.
Instead of sulking about how you’re not good enough for her, you have to be proud instead.
Proud that out of all the men who glorify her, she chose to glorify you back.
However, if your beautiful ladyboy date is too full of herself and is making it clear to you that you’re VERY LUCKY that she chose you, dump her. Law of gravity will get to that b*tch anyway lol.
You’re beautiful too
Whether you believe it or not, you’re beautiful too. Obviously, this gorgeous ladyboy won’t give you the time of day if you’re not attractive. The majority of us share the same bad habit of self-deprecation.
This has to stop because it’s not only unhealthy, it could also cause a lot of issues down the road.
You see, if you keep on thinking of yourself as someone who’s not worthy, the universe will see the same. Your happiness and confidence will always be reliant on another person. These feelings shouldn’t come from the will of another soul. You’re going to eventually have to learn how to be confident and happy on your own if you want a long-lasting relationship.
Still not convinced that you’re indeed beautiful ? Let me help you realize that you one hot tamale. I want you to make a list of the compliments people have given you over time. These may be in physical form or not; just make a goddamn list !
Trust and believe that you will see that this list will exceed more than 10 amazing qualities !
Know your Worth
If you’ve been reading My Ladyboy Date’s blog, I’m pretty sure that you’re tired of my constant reiteration. However, there’s nothing wrong with reminding you of your worth.
You see, sometimes, I know you more than you know yourself. 😉
I hope that you don’t mistake my concern for nagging. I’m not your mother and I’m way too young for that responsibility. I digress.
I’m very sure that the reason why you think that she’s out of your league is that you have not come to the realization that you, are worth it. If other people are satisfied with their lives, so should you. As long as you know that your intentions are pure and your feelings are genuine for your gorgeous ladyboy date, you have nothing to fear.
Should she leave you for superficial reasons, that’s on her and not you. Physical beauty is subjective and the discussion about that will never end. However, if your conscience is clear in entering this type of relationship and you’re not doing anything wrong, what do you have to lose?
Compete with YOURSELF
Never ever ask her who her exes are because chances are, you’d end up comparing yourself to her celebrity or CEO exes.
I did this once and it made me feel bad for days because I had an ex who dated beauty queens, models, and adult stars lol.
Technically, compared to her exes, I had no job title or crowns that validated my looks but when I come to the realization that the guy who dated extremely beautiful people was dating me instead, I felt like I was in the same lane and if not… more beautiful than them ! I mean obviously… he was MY man lol.
Do something more productive with your time and relationship with your ladyboy date rather than beating yourself for not being too good. It’s just like what Mariah Carey sings in one of her songs…
“Baby, it’s all in your mind”.
Dealing with Her
Now that we’re done talking about your feelings, it’s time to move on to her. Let me preface this by saying that not all gorgeous ladyboys act the same. Stop watching telenovelas, Arturo. This is not Days of Our Lives, Chad.
Most ladyboys are stunning so it’s more common to find attractive ones in the world of ladyboy dating. However, when it comes to a gorgeousness skin-deep… keep reading.
Beauty with Limits
We all know that universal beauty fades. Aging is inevitable so not everyone’s immortally attractive. Added to that, what I want to get into is if the girl you’re dating has limited beauty.
What is limited beauty, Amanda ?
Limited beauty is the kind wherein it stops at the physical level. Beyond that, she has not much to offer.
There’s a lot of gorgeous women with brains made of rocks. There’s also a handful of stunning ladies with attitudes that could rival Cinderella’s stepsisters’.
Physical attraction eventually wears off. Are you willing to invest in someone who has nothing to offer but this? Seriously, with the plethora of options in My Ladyboy Date, why are you enduring this lunacy ?
Let’s face it. A lot of men marry “gorgeous” women because they want to have beautiful children.
However, if you’re dating ladyboys, it’s currently not possible to have babies with them. It’s not like you’re holding on to something that would help benefit the upgrade of your genes.
I’m going to make a list of non-negotiable attributes that she may have. Use these to determine if you’re still willing to stay with her.
- nagger ;
- rude ;
- hateful ;
- deceitful ;
- lazy ;
- eternally ignorant ;
- disloyal ;
- user ;
- self-absorbed ;
- unempathetic ;
- stupid ;
- arrogant ;
Just so we’re clear, it is NOT impossible to find a gorgeous ladyboy girlfriend without those qualities. You’re not reaching for the stars just by trying to find a decent partner.
Beauty without a Purpose
She’s the kind of beauty that doesn’t acknowledge the fact that beauty is subjective. She’s too obsessed with what people say about her looks.
In short, she has no purpose in life but to live in her deluded world of vanity.
If the person you’re dating has no goals in life, her existence is questionable. You have to find somebody who wants to get somewhere. It’s very easy to know if a person has no purpose in life.
Is she doing something to achieve her goals? Does she work hard to achieve the milestones of her dreams? If she’s just sitting around and waiting for a man, it could be telling of how grim your future will look like with her.
Don’t fall for the trap of another pretty face, it’s not worth it. Dig deeper and don’t rush into getting in a relationship. You have plenty of time to peruse for purpose.
She has it ALL
If this is the case, consider yourself very lucky. I know that this usually happens in fairy tales but it doesn’t mean it’s impossible.
If your ladyboy date is not only physically beautiful, why are you wondering ?
Why does it seem so impossible for you to get a catch ?
If you’re able to attract a person like her, you’re probably quite a catch as well. Remember, like attracts like.
If she’s the type of woman who checks all the boxes but you’re still feeling like you don’t deserve her; ricochet back into the first section. It’s not her job to make you feel ample for her. Don’t create a problem out of the littlest things.
Sometimes, the universe has its way of being a meanie. However, if you’re clear enough of what you truly want in life, it’s going to give you what you deserve. Just enjoy the moment and be the best version of yourself.
Know what REAL BEAUTY is
You’re too old to get a pep talk from me but in case you forgot, real beauty is SKIN DEEP. Get this in your head with a lightning bolt scar Harry, physical beauty fades but inner beauty lasts for a lifetime. Unless you’re too superficial then I can’t help you anymore.
Real beauty is something that incites happiness. It’s something that could stand the test of time. This is only possessed by a few people and if you’re not selective enough, you’re bound to end up with nothing but shiny plastic instead of a diamond in the rough.
Anyway, she loves you. Stop fidgeting.