Our blogger Amanda Valentine’s debut dating guide book Dating Transgender Women for Gentlemen is arriving on Amazon Kindle on June 27, 2020. She hopes to change people’s perspective when it comes to the relationships of trans-oriented men and transgender women.
A lot of you single ladyboys must have been wondering why you aren’t getting a date yet. It has been a while since you put up your profile on a ladyboy dating site. Yet, you haven’t succeeded in meeting Mr Right. In some cases, you started a conversation with whom you thought will be your knight in shining armour, but all of sudden it is lost in the wind. At this point, often you go into depression and blame guys for not wanting you, worst is blame yourself, which is absolutely wrong! Girl, you better wake up and check yourself if you are doing the right things to attract men and not the other way around.
There are few things in the world of dating that we think we are doing right. But perhaps these things are actually scaring men away, with no plans of coming back to you! I asked a couple guys from myladyboydate.com what are the three things that they are attracted to the most with ladyboys. I know it is little eccentric of me but I have to do what I have to do, in order to break the spiel and help you get the man of your dreams! So here are the things that I found out.
I know this isn’t pleasant to the ears but I got to be real on this topic, for this is every woman’s struggles who have a foreign boyfriend, and people just have to realise that this is not true in all cases hence it is a stereotype. I am sure that you are going to nod your head as we go through these stereotypes.
Somewhere in 2014 I receive a Facebook message from a beautiful woman, who told me that she met someone on our site! Upon reading her message I could not help but be excited for them and just feeling so thrilled of their new found love that started on our very own dating site.
I guess that is just the emotional side of me, plus knowing that running a transgender dating site and receiving messages from members that they met somebody form our site is always exciting and fulfilling. However I cannot deny that there is a small part of me feeling doubtful yet hopeful that they would last.
The guy is from Ireland and she is from the Philippines. Amazingly, pictures from these couple popped up on my Facebook news feeds from time to time, and you can see from their pictures that they both are into each other. Every time I came across with their photos made me feel assured that they are going very well, and really happy for each other.
Those glimpses from her Facebook posts of their moments together made feel accomplished for creating myladyboydate.com. Apparently there was more to the photos that are popping up on my Facebook feeds.
Last January 21st 2016, I receive this.
So I am going to keep this short, simple, and straight to the point. Of course this does not mean that ladyboys are the only ones scamming. Men and women do this too, in fact some other cisgender people (a person whose assigned sex at birth matches his/her gender identity) use a transgender identity to operate their scams.
Ladyboy dating sites have been on the online dating market for quite some time already. Aside from being a venue to find someone special, unfortunately most of the transgender dating sites have become a market place to offer “pay for pleasure” services. Apparently they also became a perfect venue for the ladyboy scammers to take advantage on men by sucking as much money as they can.
Because it became a culture in the context of dating that a man needs to please a woman and win her heart through gifts, this is a perfect strategy for scammers to bite and take as much as they can from the guy. Another common strategy is to exploit a man’s kindness by making him feel pity towards their poor economic situation (which even this is a lie most of the time).
They say love is the language that the heart speaks. True! With no doubt, I agree with it. But this is not the type of language that I want to talk about. I am talking about the language that people use to communicate on their daily lives. Knowing that ladyboy dating often starts online, and people you meet online may not speak the same language as you do.
Most speak English and it can be their mother tongue, some know how to speak a little English, but few can hardly communicate using the English language. So my question is, does language a barrier in finding love especially in dating a ladyboy? Here is my thought about it.
This is a pure myth, so some of the ladyboys do not believe it, but most of them do. Knowing that Thailand is a Buddhist country with 80 percent of the population practising Buddhism. Their belief somehow contributed to some of the ladyboys explanation why they existed. And this is one of the most amazing fact about ladyboys that we encountered while our stay in Thailand.
Do you think dating a ladyboy that could possibly turn out to be a committed relationship is just a fetish? Well let’s define fetish first.
Fetish as an object or bodily part whose real or fantasised presence is psychologically necessary for sexual gratification and that is an object of fixation to the extent that it may interfere with complete sexual expression (Merriam Dictionary)
Obviously basing from this definition dating a transgender woman is far from what we call a fetish. And a man who is dating a ladyboy cannot be called a fetishist.
“Hi baby, I think I want to to get to know you better?”
Yeah right! You want to get to know an asian ladyboy better by asking her to take off her clothes in front of the camera right? The famous “I want to get to know you better” phrase is a rusty gesture from men when they start chatting with a ladyboy. Rusty as it is that comes with a sad fact that there are still transgender women who fall for this cam show traps through the magic of dating and the getting to know process.
For me it is already a red flag to start a conversation like this. I for once have encountered men when I was still in the dating scene. Now that I am working for a decent ladyboy dating site this line still exists. Ladyboy members from our site or even random messages from our Facebook page asked: why men seek for cam shows?
Are you treating a ladyboy like a woman should be treated? Asked yourself if you have treated a ladyboy differently from biological women. Regardless if you say yes or no, I am sure you have not treated her just like women should be treated. And that is either because you do not have dated a biological woman before or simply you see ladyboys differently from biological women.
History wise , transsexual women have more interesting and unique history over biological women but when it comes to dating, trust me we are very a like! As a transgender woman I know better how my fellow transsexual women like to be treated. So what men need to do in order to treat ladyboys like a woman? Here are my list and don’t forget to take down notes!