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Is dating a ladyboy just a fetish?

Maki Gingoyon

Do you think dating a ladyboy that could possibly turn out to be a committed relationship is just a fetish? Well let’s define fetish first.

Fetish as an object or bodily part whose real or fantasised presence is psychologically necessary for sexual gratification and that is an object of fixation to the extent that it may interfere with complete sexual expression (Merriam Dictionary)

Obviously basing from this definition dating a transgender woman is far from what we call a fetish. And a man who is dating a ladyboy cannot be called a fetishist.

Ladyboys are not OBJECTS

Though we have various of fetishes but this certain category do not just fit in as being one of those fetishes. Because as the above meaning states: sexually aroused to an object or bodily part. And hey! Clearly we are not an object and surely dating a ladyboy is not just all about what is between her legs.

Remember that there are non-op, pre-op and post-op transsexual women.  Now let see another definition of fetish from Wikipedia.

Sexual fetishism or erotic fetishism is the sexual arousal a person receives from a physical object, or from a specific situation.

Dating can be considered as a situation, being a ladyboy is considered to be a situation. Does that confirm that dating a ladyboy is just a fetish? I still believe it is not. Dating can be of different form depending on how you define it. And as a decent ladyboy dating site, we define dating in a classic way.

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Guy likes girl and girl likes guy, both likes each other emotionally, physically and sexually. They get to now each other to see if  they are compatible and ready  for a commitment.

A prolong courtship that would lead to a romantic pact. Dating a ladyboy does not actually differ from dating a biological woman. In this aspect we can say it is not a fetish otherwise dating a biological woman is also considered a fetish. Given that being a ladyboy is a situation together with being a man, woman, gay and the rest of the the gender.

How can it become a fetish? Their male genitalia ? Oh yeah their male genitalia, please take note that there are transgender women who undergoes sexual reassignment surgery or sex change. So obviously this does not apply to them. I would like to repeat this, that men who likes ladyboys, date them not only because of their male genitalia but simply because of their being. You can’t question somebody’s preference who to be in a relationship with right?

But that isn’t the topic here. If you are questioning her male genitalia and if that is what making dating a non-op ladyboy a fetish then I guess it is fare to compare that to someone who likes to date a biological woman who has big boobs. Why? Because a guy’s fetish can be big boobs and so prefers to date a woman with big boobs but that doesn’t mean dating  her is a fetish right? They guy has simply just a preference. Thus making it dating ladyboys not a fetish.

It can be a fetish if you are only  after for sexual pleasure but surely any serious romantic dating cannot just be fall under a certain fetish.

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Maki Gingoyon
Mabuhay! I am a Filipino transgender woman who believes that making friends with, or dating and loving a transgender woman should not be ashamed of.

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  1. Women’s bodies are fetishised both during and prior to sex. Pretty much the whole human race fetishises aspects of the sex act or body parts . . . it’s not a problem . . . why worry

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