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Maki Gingoyon
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Properly addressing a transwoman is actually one way of showing respect to them. This  is very useful especially to men who want to date transsexual women but is still new to it.  And as the only decent ladyboy dating site we want to make sure that everything goes well with your first date with a transsexual.

Fisrt do not call her “ladyboy”. That is a controversial name… And a very derogatory term. You might not offend Asians (not all), but westerners are very likely to NOT like it. Because this word is commonly associated with p*rn and s*xwork. Thanks to the Internet, and to all those  tourists bringing back home pictures of “ladyboy” pr*stitutes. Although we are using the word it doesn’t mean  we are tolerating such usage. We wish of nothing but only to reach out those people who are unaware of the appropriate term.

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Don’t address her as a ladyboy

Where ever you are, if you want to be safe, simply employ the name “transgender”, which is an umbrella term for a wide number of other terms (including “transsexual”). It’s also the latest trend in the trans community, who like to talk more about gender than sex, and therefore favour transgender over transsexual. So you might even pass for being knowledgeable and aware of the topic, good point for your date!There are also other names that can be safely employed. “Special woman”, or simply “transwoman”, or “TS”, or “TG”.

Shemale is also a no-no

A special note regarding “shemale”. I discourage you to ever call somebody “shemale”, as this is a name 100% made up by the adult industry, and could get people really offended. Would you call your mom a MILF? Well that’s more or less how transgenders would feel if you call them shemale.

Proper semantics

As for the pronouns, this is easy. Always employ feminine pronouns. Transsexual women are, well, women. Women in their heart, women in their mind and soul. And thus  we  expect and deserve to be addressed as such. “She and her”, and not “he and him”.

I think you are now equipped for your first transgender date! Treat her like the woman she is, be a gentleman, and I guarantee she will like it!

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Maki Gingoyon
Maki Gingoyon is a transgender woman and trans rights advocate in the Philippines. She is the Co-founder and Chief Operating Officer of My Ladyboy Date. Her advocacy focuses on bringing awareness to trans issues and ending the stigma that surrounds trans relationships. She has used pageantry as a form of increasing trans visibility. She was the winner of Queen of Cebu 2010, Queen of the Sky 2013, and the Mandaue Gay Pageant 2017. She recently competed in Miss International Queen Philippines 2023 where she won Best Advocacy. She continues her advocacy by helping trans women and trans-oriented men find love.

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Comments (2)

  • westernstar
    I am thankful for site such as this one for the information they provide as a westerner it is helpful and I have met a very nice special lady to get to know , thankx
  • Merci Maki pour ces renseignements importants!

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