Is providing a monthly allowance for your Ladyboy Girlfriend a must

Talks about allowances in relationships, whether they be ladyboy-oriented or not, are always surrounded by controversy. But in reality, every couple has the luxury to design their relationship. It shouldn’t be influenced by the people who are not in it.

However, in some instances, the allowance in question, maybe the only thing that hinges on the connection. And the fluidity of money comes out the window and more questions about the genuineness of the receiver take over the spotlight.

If you’ve noticed that most of your friends financially provide for their ladyboy girlfriends or you come across ladyboys who require support, you can’t help but wonder, should you really provide a monthly allowance to maintain your relationship with your ladyboy girlfriend?

Keep reading if you want to know the answer. However, like always, take everything with a grain of salt. These tips may or may not apply to you.

Her Living Situation

If you love someone and you have the capability of lifting that person out of poverty, what’s stopping you? Yes, all these:

• doubts
• apprehension
• experiences

are valid because there are many golddiggers on dating websites. However, If she has been in a relationship with you for a very long time and has never demanded anything out of you, how can you endure watching her keep living a life of lack.

Yes, there are instances where people get to lift themselves out of poverty. But you also have to add her, being a ladyboy who’s inopportune because of discrimination, into the equation.

In this case, it’s vital for you to support her. By then, she’ll be experiencing equity and she’ll be positioned on an easier playing field wherein she could start a new life and shine.

Her Educational Background

You have to understand that in Southeast Asia, ladyboys were, and some are still, horribly marginalized. So much so that even the most basic right to education is deprived just because of their gender identity.

And we all know that education is key to possessing a career that can help one rise above poverty. So if she’s one of the many unfortunate victims of discrimination and was left out of this basic human right, she’s probably living a hard life.

In this case, and if you can afford it, you should definitely support her.

Are there Career Opportunities for Her?

Have you dated ladyboys from her country and witnessed a pattern of belongingness to workers that live from paycheck to paycheck? If so, blame the system and not her. In the Philippines for example, many locally owned companies still wouldn’t hire ladyboys because of their company’s moral codes.

She is fighting centuries of patriarchal and anti-gay beliefs. She’s not just going to magically wind up changing the minds of more than a hundred million people. Sadly, she can only live in this lifetime and if you can help her make the most of it, why not?

Did she Blatantly Ask to be Supported?

In some relationships, financial support is needed. But if she’s not legally your partner and you’re just in the grassroots stages of the relationship and she blatantly asked to be supported, this speaks volumes that money is the only reason as to why she’s in the relationship.

What She’ll be Spending the Money on

There are many ways to spend money. Allowance is such a vague word and is not a determining factor of what the budget will be like. When it comes to providing allowances, you must know precisely where the funds are going to be used.

To have a better idea and to further justify this type of setup, she must disclose what her needs are. Food, utilities, and savings are all good excuses. Education is also one of the best ways to spend an allowance on. Some little shopping wouldn’t harm as well.

But if the allowance is going to be used for luxury, partying, and unnecessary things, that’s when asking for an allowance becomes poor in taste.

Is she asking for an allowance for a certain area in her life or is she asking for alimony?

But of course, if she has a career, spending on everything doesn’t make sense. If she lives with you, that’s a different story because she needs to handle the budget of the household. But if you have a long-distance relationship and every single penny for her to exist is spent by you, she’s probably a parasite.

But of course, at the end of the day, she’s your girlfriend and you’re the only one who can say whether or not you can afford to do so. But grooming her to depend all of her life on you will only hurt you in the future.

Did she get by with getting financial support from her past relationships

Not that she will willingly share this information, but it’s vital for you to know because only then will you be able to determine if she’s just using you or not. If she made a career out of being a sugar baby and you’re not comfortable with that, you have every right to know.

Being with her is like making an investment. All the details must be transparent. Before coming up or agreeing with an allowance system, you should ask why she needed it and how she was able to maintain the lifestyle she’s asking of you before she met you.

Also, be attentive to what she shows and tells you. For example, little things like selecting certain restaurants, travel destinations, and hotels, will give you an idea of the type of men she has dated before.

If she recommends everything no less than four-star places and she can’t even afford her next meal or pay her rent, she has probably exclusively dated wealthy men and you’re the next target.

Is she doing something for her future

Lastly, if the allowance system is only a blip because she’s jobless at the moment or she spent her savings on very important factors, but she’s really hardworking and she has goals for herself, it is more than okay to get the boost that she needs.

There are many circumstances where a lifetime of savings can be spent overnight. Cases like hospitalization, debt payments, tragedies, etc., are only a few reasons as to why she needs an allowance.

Added to that, she might have plans to use the money in the future so she could travel to you.

At the end of the day, providing an allowance is at your discretion. Nobody should dictate what you should and shouldn’t do with your money. But as they say, money doesn’t come from trees so you must spend wisely!

Before making that remittance, get to know her character first. Take your time and don’t rush just to impress her. If she really loves you, she will stick with you.