What Ladyboys Find Condescending from Most Western Men

Have you ever met a ladyboy online and the conversation went really well but she has suddenly gotten cold? It’s most probably because you’ve mentioned something that didn’t resound positively in her ear.

Or maybe, you’ve met each other and went on a date but then, she decided to cut all communications with you. You must know that not all ladyboys will endure the feeling of being insulted and not all of them are open to intervention.

To be sure that you’re not spouting foolishness, here are some guidelines of what ladyboys find condescending from most western men.

1. Wow, your English is so good! I didn’t expect that

If you ended your remark on the exclamation point, this is fine. But if you add the latter bits and say that you didn’t expect her to speak good English, that’s insulting.

Just exactly what did you expect? The stereotypical Asian accent and a bonus of grammatical incorrectness? No matter how you try to justify that unwelcome addition, nothing good will come out of it.

2. X Amount of Money is BIG for your Country

Yes, that may be right in some cases. But if you think that a hundred bucks could buy you a mansion in the Philippines, Thailand, Vietnam, etc., you must be living in a cave.

Don’t say something as ignorant as this. You’re not only insulting her country, but you’re also making her feel small.

3. People from your country are lazy

So I guess you’ve decided to fire the first bullet. Now, crapping on a country’s technology and infrastructure is understandable and in most cases, justifiable. But now, you’re insulting her fellowmen, and being that she’s also part of the group you’re insulting, amidst you mentioning VVIP exceptions, she will find you condescending.

You have to understand that each one of us isn’t cut from the same cloth. Some people are more sensitive. In some cases, even couples who have been together for a long time don’t talk for days because someone insulted the other’s native food.

4. Why is everyone here so slow?

This is very common, especially in the Philippines. A lot of western men get culture shock from how slow cashiers are in major grocery stores. You have to understand that not every country has the same training and not all companies expect the same performance.

Filipinos have learned to deal with it and most of them have no qualms about it. Making a scene or having a fit about it will only make you seem entitled and spoiled.

5. I don’t like the food

Honesty is never a bad thing. But you don’t have to spout too much specificity and don’t have to be entangled about the thought for a long time. If you say you don’t like the food about every item that’s served, you must be some kind of fancy gourmand.

Except… you’re not. There’s no reason for you to drag such a trivial conversation to ruin the mood. You’ve already said your piece. Leave it at that.

6. I’ve met ladyboys from your country and everyone just wanted money

If all of them only want money, what’s the point of dating this one now? If the experience was so traumatizing, why do it over and over again? Or maybe it’s your way to warn the ladyboy not to ask for money from you.

Well, you gotta do what you gotta do. But know that most men have probably only wanted intimacy from her but she isn’t mentioning it isn’t she? So that’s the difference between you and her, she didn’t judge you prematurely.

7. You’re really a/an (insert profession)?

If you ask someone what their work is and they give you an answer, you don’t ask them twice. This will make her feel like you don’t believe her or you don’t think that she’s capable of doing her job. Yes, it can be surprising for you to chat with ladyboys who have flourishing careers but it’s 2025, and times are changing.

Ladyboys nowadays aren’t just in the fields of beauty, entertainment, and adult work. Some of them are entrepreneurs, bosses, professors, lawyers, doctors, and more.

8. I work a lot with people from your country. They’re slow.

Back again with the slow comment. Don’t say this one because it’s not only patronizing, it’s also ultra-condescending. Again, it would not erase the fact that just because you’re dating her and saying she’s special, she still doesn’t belong to the group of people you’re insulting.

Exactly what do you expect her to say after this comment? Would you like her to agree? Do you want her to expressively support your thoughts? Are there pros to this kind of narrative?

9. We had that in the 90s. I can’t believe you guys still have it

Don’t you just dream of being warped back to the best era? Well, we all have our biases but this comment is condescending because you’re making her feel like they still live in primitive times.

She doesn’t have control over how technologically advanced her country would be. She probably also can’t believe why there’s no growth. But doing so is rubbing in the torment of her what ifs and shouldas. Like it’s her choice to work using a 5mbps connection or you get the gist.

10. I can’t try too much. I’ll get diarrhea

Are you implying that she has a superhuman digestive system or you’re making her feel like it’s okay for her to eat dirty food because she’s used to it? Well, it’s probably the latter so in this case, you just have to shush your thoughts. There are so many euphemisms to explain this worrisome feat without being condescending.

Perhaps, you can say that you’re not an adventurous eater. You can also say that you’re full. Sometimes, sprinkling some white lies here and there can save a relationship.

11. Your family is so poor, I feel bad for you

If she’s okay with her family’s socio-economic standing, there’s nothing poor about her. If she’s happy and they have all survived many crises without having financial abundance, they’re not poor.

Your idea of poor may be her idea of normal. Avoid statements like this.

12. I’ll give you a better life

In connection with her poor family, yes, you probably may be capable of that. But you have to understand that it’s not only the financial aspect that makes one’s life better. For example, if she’s family-oriented and you take her away from her family, how’s that scenario better for her?

And how arrogant is it to assume that she will be happier if you give her your idea of a better life?

13. I’ll probably live like a king here

Lastly, the most common misconception of retired western men here in Southeast Asia. They get their bubbles burst once they realize that it’s not as cheap as they imagined most especially the ones who are only living off their pension.

Yes, rent is probably cheaper, but a king doesn’t rent so there goes their delusions. Secondly, if you have a lifestyle that’s filled with wild nights, booze and food don’t cost less than a dollar. You’ll probably finish your money faster than when in your country where you can’t afford to party every night.

Unless you’re crazy rich, that’s when you can live a like a king. But sharing this statement with her will make her feel like you’re underestimating the value of her country.

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