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The Ghost from My Ladyboy Date is Coming Back

Amanda Valentine Dela Cruz

Ghouls, werewolves, vampires, etc., are the commonly feared creatures that most of us have known about since we were little. Many times over, their existence has been debunked and their existence has often been cast towards fictional literary and cinematic works.

But then, as we all grew up, we were all surprised by the unforeseeable surprise of another form of something scary. Something that can actually be experienced by our five senses.

It’s an all-new type of ghost. Something even scarier than The Phantom of the Opera. Yes, it’s none other than the ghost of My Ladyboy Date! No, they don’t appear in the same form. They’re described differently by a variety of each user’s unique experience.

Now, if you’ve been ghosted and you’re being haunted by that person again, you must be prepared. Exorcism? A circle of protection perhaps? Let’s get on with how you’re going to deal with them once and for all!

How did they ghost you?

Ghosting is done in different ways. Some do it one day after having an amazing first date. Others wait at least a week to “get to know you better”. And some, are just outright sadistic that they feel the need to leave you without notice after you’re already emotionally attached.

Woman with shoulder-length hair wearing a dark sweater, touching her temple with a concerned expression.
A woman lost in thought. – pexels.com

The latter kind of ghosts is the ones that you have to avoid at all costs again. You don’t want to be strung along just to satiate their hunger for attention. Let them starve and punish them for what they’ve done.

Now, if they ghosted you very shortly after just meeting you or getting to know you. There are myriad reasons as to why they did it and they may not be a certified ghost after all.

They may be discerning on who to go in a more serious direction with and unfortunately, you weren’t the best applicant. You might have done something in person or said something that they felt negatively about.

Your judgment for the reason as to why they ghosted you

No, determining this doesn’t make you a masochist or about giving them excuses. Having proper judgment makes you an objective person and acknowledging the fact that you may have been part of the reason as to why they ghosted you.

Man with glasses and a beard, wearing a green shirt, resting his chin on his hand in a thoughtful pose.
A moment of deep concentration. – pexels.com

Did you act inappropriately? Were you overbearing when the two of you discussed a controversial topic? Did you call them out of their name?

Added to that, you must understand that every person has standards. Sometimes, these standards may be quite shallow but unfortunately, you won’t have control over them. Below are the most common reasons why they’ve ghosted you.

  • You looked lousy on your first date.
  • Your photos are heavily filtered and you don’t look the same in person
  • The photos of you on the website are from 5 years ago and don’t look like you anymore
  • If you’re a man, you asked to split the bill
  • If you’re a man, you took your ladyboy date to a very cheap restaurant
  • Inappropriately dressed on many occasions
  • You had spinach covering your teeth while you were talking
  • You lit up a cigarette and inconsiderately smoked around them when their profile clearly stated that they can’t stand smoking
  • You smelled bad
  • Your nails were dirty

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Ghosting frequency

Now, if the person has ghosted you several times and they’re doing regular cameos in your life, that person didn’t, doesn’t, and will never respect you. Don’t ever think about committing to a serious relationship with them because they’re going to drop you like a hot potato when the going gets tough.

A frequent ghoster screams someone who isn’t capable of responsibilities and relationships. To them, you’re just a plaything. It’s obvious how they don’t consider your emotions from their inconsistency.

Person covered by a white sheet, resembling a classic ghost costume.
A playful take on the classic ghost costume. – pexels.com

Added to that, people like these are very good manipulators, hence, they still have access to conversing with you even if they’ve already ghosted you far too many times. Your lines remain open because you’re gullible and willing to be their victim

Dealing with this requires a lot of effort from you. You must establish emotional independence in order to truly get rid of them. Step one is ensuring that you won’t need any sort of validation from anyone else but yourself. Once you get that going, everything else will be a walk in the park.

Their explanation as to why they ghosted you

But of course, not everyone has a heart of stone. Some people are open to forgiving and if you’re the kind, it’s important to at the very least, get an explanation so you can make a more informed decision on whether or not to continue the communication with the ghoster.

Smiling man in a black t-shirt, holding a glass and looking at his phone in a modern living room.
A relaxed moment at home. – pexels.com

There are many reasons why they do this horrible act but some of the reasons below are the only few that could justify their action.

  • They’ve gotten back with their former partner
  • They weren’t in a situation where they feel that they could be enough for you so they went on a self-improvement journey
  • You showed rudeness and they judged you too quickly and want to give you another chance to prove them wrong
  • You said something that pierced through them and enhanced their insecurities
  • They weren’t looking for a serious relationship and we’re just in the site to h00k-up and they didn’t want to put you in the one-night stand category

Your security levels

Now, if you’re at the point of your life wherein you acknowledge that ghosting truly happens yet you’re still putting yourself out there, why not give it another chance?

After all, you’re more mature and ready for the repercussions so it only makes sense for you to have another go. However, if you fear that it may happen again, why take the risk?

This person already has a history of being flaky to you. There’s no need to gamble when there’s a wide pool with many eligible partners readily available for you?

Your awareness that they might do it again

To further expound on your security level, people who are aware are kind of like turtles and crabs. They’ve already developed impenetrable shells that they become almost invincible.

It’s not smart to play with fire especially if you’re the type who’s easily emotionally affected. But if you’re in the spectrum of the more logical side, your awareness alone is enough to reinforce you to try again.

Options

Now, for the ones who downright don’t want to deal with the bullcrap again and have permanently erased their ghosters off the face of the earth… there are plenty of options.

Cyril Mazur and Maki Gingoyon standing by a window, embracing each other with a warm expression.
A heartfelt moment between Cyril Mazur and Maki Gingoyon.

Why does one have to acknowledge, confront, and release the ghost when they could stay in the dimension of where they are and continue living their lives when My Ladyboy Date has so many single individuals who have no issues and are also looking for genuine love?

Signup today and pleasantly surprise yourself!

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About the author

Amanda Valentine Dela Cruz
Amanda Valentine has been a writer for My Ladyboy Date for over 10 years. She writes various topics on trans dating and other trans-related content. Her personal experiences as a transgender woman have given her a unique point of view on trans topics. She has written 5 books on trans women’s relationships and has made it on Amazon’s best-seller list. Her book “Dating Transgender Women for Gentlemen” reached #3 on the Transgender Studies category on Amazon. Her love for writing started when she won a poetry contest in 4th grade which made her pursue a career in literature.

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