Dating a Submissive Man as a Ladyboy

If you’re a ladyboy in the dating world, you probably have experienced getting to know guys who are purely bottoms. And to most ladyboys, this can be their bane as a lot of them prefer a man who’s a top. However, this is not to say that submissive men can’t find an active ladyboy partner.

But we digress because that’s not what’s in store for today. Now, if you’re a ladyboy who really likes the guy you’re chatting with but unsure if you can take upon the role of what he’s asking of you, keep reading.

Level of Submissiveness

Not all submissive men are made the same. Some of them are extreme while some like to switch things up from time to time. If he’s the kind of guy who’s honest about not being satiated if he’s not on the receiving end and you’re a ladyboy who doesn’t want to exclusively top or not top at all, he’s not the guy for you.

Now, if you are comfortable with what you have between your legs and have no problems using it, give this connection a try. What have you got to lose? For the ones who aren’t fully functional, ask the guy if he’s okay with incorporating toys. Some men will settle with it if they find an emotional connection with you.

What is your role?

Speaking of settling, your role in the bedroom shouldn’t be compromised. Ladyboys have different levels of gender dysphoria. If the thought of having to use your male genitalia doesn’t sit well with you, forget about him and move on. There is plenty of fish in the sea. Cast your net wider and you’ll be surprised.

Moreover, if you fake your way just to please the other person, that’s going to be what you’re going to do for the rest of your life. Lies will never cultivate happiness.

Can you assume the position?

Some ladyboys feel like because they’re so into the guy they’re dating, they tend to give them the wrong impression and say that they’re versatile or tops. What happens when you guys finally meet and you can’t fulfill your promise? Not only will you both be left blue-balled, but he’ll label you as a liar.

You see, not because you can get the sails up means that you can get it to the harbor. Okay, let’s clarify this. Not because you can get yours hard means that you can successfully complete the act of intimacy. This can be caused by different factors—some psychological and some, medical.

Before you say for certain that you can, make sure that you get enough practice first.

What do you like about a partner?

Stop focusing on this submissive man and return the attention to yourself. After all, how the hell are you going to love somebody else if you don’t know how to love yourself? Thanks RuPaul. Going back to the topic, what do you like about a partner?

Does he have to be funny? Should he be romantic? Perhaps, rich? The qualities can go on and on but should him being a top also be in the mix? If so, you’ve got your answer already. Again, a submissive man is not for you.

Are you on hormones?

Let’s be clear, not all ladyboys who undergo hormone replacement therapy have plans of getting a gender reassignment surgery. While most of them do, there are still ladyboys who take hormone replacement therapy just to alleviate dysphoric feelings and to achieve a more feminine look.

Now, let’s focus on the ones who are okay with using their male genitalia but are taking hormones at the same time. Sure, love can make you do crazy things and some will even consider quitting HRT just to be fully functional and to please their man.

If you think you belong to that group, go ahead. Now, if you’re experiencing depression, anxiety, and other psychological challenges whenever you’re not taking HRT medication, dating a submissive man is a big no.

Don’t compromise your health just for love. It’s not love if the other person gets all the benefits while you suffer.

Are you comfortable using your genitalia?

In connection with gender dysphoria, are you comfortable using what most consider the male member? Sorry but you have to answer this. It’s the sanest way to figure out if you’re really compatible with a submissive man.

Do you use it for other purposes apart from peeing?

Now, do you have the answer?

If you do and the answer is no, then find another man.

What they usually like

Please know that a lot of submissive men have extra additional kinks. Most of them won’t stop at being bottoms. Some of them are into sissification and forced feminization. Others like being downright humiliated. If this lifestyle is not for you and is too farfetched from your idea of what you want your relationship to be, ditch it.

We know that it’s hard most especially if you really find this guy attractive. But you also have to know that this world is plenty of options and you’ve barely just seen the tip of the iceberg.

Did you know that in the US, one ladyboy has an average of twelve men who want to date her? That’s a lot of chances!

Are they asking for too much?

In connection with additional kinks, apart from wanting you to be a top, do they also ask you for other stuff? Perhaps, for you to dress up in a dominatrix costume or maybe punish them with a flogger or a whip for being a naughty boy?

Yup, that’s your cue to look for the exit door. Not unless you’re into that stuff so feel free to take the reins.

Do you love him amidst his role?

Now, for the ones who are already in love. The decision-making process will prove to be a lot more challenging. Now that he has your heart, you might conform just for the sake of keeping him.

But please, for the love of whoever you worship, think of it this way. Apart from his love, are you happy? When you look in the mirror, do you still see yourself? Do you still have your own identity?

If not, you’ve probably given him control of your life. It’s quite ironic that he’s supposed to be the submissive one but you’re giving him the biggest portion of what’s important about you, your truth.

If you’re a single ladyboy who’s looking for a submissive man, you’ll find him in My Ladyboy Date. Now, if you’re a ladyboy who prefers an active man, you’ll also find him in My Ladyboy Date. Quit pondering and take a chance today. He’s out there!