What to do when your Boyfriend’s Crazy EX is bothering you

Oh no, this is a conundrum that you don’t ever want to encounter. Obsession is very hard to deal with and in some cases, it can be fatal. This is why you have to take the right action when fate gives you this hand.

Please know that this was not created to scare you and make you think that all exes are nuts. Some could just be trying to find closure or trying to warn you. However, it’s still best to take precautions.

1. Tell your boyfriend about it

If you really love your partner, you will tell them everything that’s going on, most especially if it involves people or situations that can compromise the relationship. When it comes to a flourishing relationship, trust and honesty are of paramount importance.

Yes, there will be a chance that he will deny any allegations that his exes make and it turns out that his ex was telling the truth, but still, that doesn’t mean that telling him won’t allow you to discover the real score.

At the very least, you’re open to him and you will get to hear his side of the story. Knowing both sides will give you a better chance in making a well-informed decision.

2. Strengthen your social media security

If you’re not a public figure, influencer, or anyone who has to put your life out there like an open book, you’ll always benefit from intensifying your social media accounts’ security.

You should never allow people who are not your friends, to get a glimpse of what’s on your timeline. Added to that, they should not see your friends list as well because, on some social media platforms, mutual friends will have access to one’s posts.

3. Tell your friends about his crazy ex

One of the smartest things you should do is tell your friends about his crazy ex. Should something bad happen to you and his ex is the culprit, the police won’t have a hard time looking for the suspect.

When it comes to crimes of passion, every minute counts. This tattle-telling can save your life. Don’t think that you’re being paranoid or extra by disclosing this information to your friends. After all, if they’re your real friends, they won’t have a problem with this.

Added to that, real friends enjoy a good tea!

4. Reply with politeness (if in the early stage)

Most people who develop obsession like to play mind games. However, they’re also susceptible to these. And if his ex keeps on bothering you, she probably isn’t in the right mindset. You shouldn’t provoke her by being too abrasive. Be polite and hear or read what she has to convey.

Tell her that you appreciate her, reaching out. But follow it up with something along the lines of it would be disrespectful to your boyfriend if you keep communication lines with her and probe her that you’re going to have to block her from all of your platforms.

5. Lend an ear but keep your walls up (if in the early stage)

Please know that this is a bit risky. However, this will give you more insight as to why your boyfriend’s ex is so adamant about keeping connections with you. You see, unlike in section 4, this will require you to stay in touch with her for longer than usual.

But doing so might compromise the trust that your boyfriend has for you. In most cases, your boyfriend will not be cool with you, talking to his ex. So you have to ensure that his ex won’t be able to get receipts that you’re in touch with her.

If you wanna dig deeper with the tea, use a fake profile and message her. Say that you’re you and that your boyfriend has passwords to your social media accounts. Listen to everything that she has to say about their relationship and by doing this, you will have an easier time finding out if she’s lying or not.

You’ll also get a closer look at her real intentions.

6. Don’t give details of your whereabouts

You mustn’t also provide details of your whereabouts whether directly or indirectly. The latter means that when you are out and about, don’t pin your location whenever you make a post on social media. If you’re truly adamant about letting your friends know where your selfie was taken, post a day or two later when you’re not in the area anymore.

Things like these may seem trivial and harmless but trust and believe that if you’re on the radar of a stalker, anything minuscule is like top-secret information for them.

7. Block everywhere

No, you’re not weak for drawing boundaries. Blocking a person is not synonymous with waving a white flag. It just means that you don’t have time for bullcrap and you just want to move on.

This is usually done by most people right off the bat but you’re not one of them because you’re reading this guide. However, if you want the safest way in handling a situation like this, hit that button.

8. Report to the police

It’s time for the last resort and something that you’d do if the ex does something that’s evidently jeopardizing your safety. This may be in the way of threats through chat, voice messaging, calls, and more.

You must have concrete proof before doing this because his ex might report you for false accusations or when things get escalated, countersue you. If you don’t have solid proof yet, you may also work with the police and they will come up with a plan on how to get it if your boyfriend’s ex still has no idea that you’re planning to take legal action.

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