How to cope with your ladyboy best friend dating your ex-boyfriend

Has your life turned into something similar with a Real Housewives plot twist recently? Are you dealing with a friend, or worse, a best friend who’s now dating your ex-boyfriend? Wow, the villain, the protagonist, the love triangle, and the drama of it all!

Stick around because we will help you decipher this conundrum and give you some ideas on how you can move forward in life. Yes, the life with you, your ex, and your snake (just kidding!) friend.

1. Your feelings about your ex

This is the part where you have to be completely honest with yourself. Without doing so, you’re going to wind up hurting yourself even more. Added to that, you’re also going to hurt your relationship with your friend most especially if she has already explicitly asked for permission from you to date your ex.

If you’re still in love with your ex and at the same time, you truly value your friendship, let your friend know that you’re not yet over him. That way, she will hold the ball and decide if she’s a true friend to you or not. People may argue that she has the right to be happy and while that’s true, it’s also true that since she and your ex are yet to start a relationship, their connection is not mature yet.

That’s when she’ll hold the repercussions and not you, by choosing her years of friendship with you or her potential lifetime of happiness with her possible soulmate. At the end of the day, nothing’s going to be on you.

2. Your feelings about your best friend

If she’s your best friend, the genuine kind, she will never date your ex. She knows the heartbreak you’ve been through and no man could ever compromise your relationship with her. Should you feel already disrespected by her actions of flirting with your ex, you shouldn’t continue your friendship anymore.

However, if there are instances that she has sacrificed so much already for you and you feel within your heart, that there’s a huge chance that the two of them are truly meant for each other, maybe you have to see how things pan out in the future.

Don’t worry, we will be discussing more of that in the later parts of this guide.

3. How long have you been friends with your bestie?

If you and your best friend  haven’t known each other for a long time, what you both have is probably not the kind that twin flames and besties share. You’re confusing the fun you’re having with your friend with true friendship. Drop the both of them.

However, if the both of you go way back and have already been through a lot while still choosing to stick together, it’s okay to consider that what she will be getting out of your ex may be something really special. Remember, not because you and your ex didn’t work out means that he’s supposed to live a miserable life without a soulmate.

Added to that, if you don’t have feelings for your ex anymore and your ex wasn’t horrible, why are you gatekeeping him from your friend? Your ex is not like a toy that you couldn’t share with others just because you owned it first.

In retrospect, if you don’t love him anymore, let him and your friend be.

4. How long have you been single?

Now, before moving forward with a decision, are you in a happy relationship right now? If so, let them date. The other question would be, is there a good reason why your bestie shouldn’t date your ex (was he violent, scheming, evil, etc.), do everything you can to EXPLICITLY warn her.

Now, for the last question, how long have you been single? Maybe it’s time to start dating again because if you’ve been going through life idly enjoying your singlehood and you just got a feeling of sudden jealousy because your friend is being courted by your ex, you’re just possessive and the problem’s on you.

There’s no reason for you to have jolts of anger most especially if it’s been years since you dated your ex. Other people have the right to move on at their own pace and you shouldn’t curtail them.

5. Are you really in love with your current boyfriend?

Now, if you’re not single and you’re getting feelings of jealousy from your friend and ex, you’re probably not truly in love with your current boyfriend. You see, it’s very easy, if you’re madly and deeply in love with someone, your eyes and your heart won’t be able to sense other souls.

To someone who’s hopelessly in love, nobody exists but the other person.

6. What hurts you?

Have you already assessed what’s hurting you with the possible union of your bestie and your ex?

• Is it because you’re still in love with your ex?
• Do you feel betrayed by your bestie (most especially if the breakup is fresh)?
• Are you more hurt by your bestie or by your ex?
• Do you feel like your ex is blatantly hurting you by choosing your bestie over millions of other options in the world?
• Is it because if you were in your bestie’s position, this situation wouldn’t even exist and you’re surprised by her audacity to do this to you?

LET HER KNOW. Be very vocal when it comes to your feelings. And if you truly consider her your bestie, she’s going to understand you. Besides, it’s her job as your best friend to listen to you, no matter if it won’t be in support of their possible relationship.

Again, you don’t want to be the one living with guilt. After all, you’re not at fault here. It should be the two of them to have whatever type of feelings resulting from their chosen situation.

7. Avoiding Events and Scenarios

Now, if you’re okay with your bestie dating your ex and you’ve given them your blessing, but you’re still single and your jealousy only gets triggered when you see them together–while most of the time, you’re happy with how everything fell in place, you should AVOID events and scenarios that can escalate these zaps of envy.

For example, don’t go on double dates or worse, don’t EVER agree to be the third wheel. That’s team too much. If your bestie asks you to third-wheel, she’s probably not your real friend as she’s rubbing it in and being too audacious with you.

Added to that, if she starts blabbering about him, try to change the topic to something more generic and non-relationship-oriented. Yes, there will be a switch when it comes to your discussions with her but it’s inevitable. Besides, it’s her who made the choice to date your ex so she should understand that the girl-talk will be less juicy.

8. Making a choice

The mere fact that your bestie is asking you for permission to date your ex already says that she has chosen him over you. Now, if you’re really not comfortable with this scenario, girl, it’s time to make a choice. Living with feelings of secret anger, despise, and hate, are all too unhealthy for you to have.

Yes, there will be times when you’ll miss your best friend but you have to acknowledge the fact that the relationship has already been tarnished. Know that in this life, nothing’s constant but change. Some people are meant to be in passing. Not everyone deserves your lifetime love.

9. Closure

Now that you’ve made your choice, you don’t want to go on with life, hating people who don’t respect boundaries. Have closure with them even if they don’t deserve it. After all, you’ll be doing this for your own good.

Send both of them a long letter about how you feel and why you can’t continue the friendship anymore. Wish them happiness, find new friends (real ones), and meet your soulmate.

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