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How to not scare a man away from Ladyboy Dating

Do you often get ghosted? One of the many reasons why a lot of men shy away from getting to know a ladyboy more is because of fear. And some contributors to this fear may be stemming from you.

Not to say that you’re accountable for their actions because, at the end of the day, that’s on them and not you. However, there’s no harm in considering tweaking how you converse with potential partners online.

Please know that this guide may or may not apply to you so take everything with a grain of salt.

1. Avoid being too clingy

Just like for any relationship to happen, trust must be established first. Whether it be romantic, platonic, or a blissful affair. Being too clingy right off the bat will give them the impression that you’re insecure.

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It’s very hard to find someone who will view insecurity as a plus point in dating. Let him breathe and assess how he’s going to know you. Just go with the flow, don’t force anything!

2. Set boundaries, not expectations

Drawing boundaries is one of the best dating strategies. However, setting expectations too early in the game will make it seem that you’re controlling… and that’s not appealing.

He came into the website looking for true love, not to be chained and told what to do. Don’t you just hate it when you’re talking to someone and you feel like you’re walking on eggshells just to not offend them?

Well, if you pull out your expectations too early, that’s how you’ll make them feel. And because they have not invested anything emotionally yet, they’re not likely to compromise.

3. Don’t force them to do things too soon

If you only started chatting with the guy for less than a month, you have to get a hold of yourself. Relax, don’t try to rush things. Don’t demand call scheduling or have a man do things for you too soon.

a surprised woman

Doing so will excite them more because they will feel that you’re not desperate to be with someone. Remember, most men are hunters. They don’t pursue someone who’s easily available. Where’s the fun in that? What memories will he be proud to share if you’re the one who has done the work?

4. Get to know him below the surface

Relationships that stem from nothing but superficiality are bound to fizzle faster than a stale soda left on the table for three hours. You must learn to use your time wisely and invest in connections that are meaningful and genuine.

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It’s cool to talk about interests, hobbies, and passions. But you also have to open up your heart and learn how to talk about your desires and fears. These are some of the things that you can’t just share with a stranger, hence, the reason why many of us are looking for an intimate relationship.

If they think that you lack depth, they will get bored and fly elsewhere. Be yourself and don’t be afraid whether they’ll like you or not.

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5. Let him initiate conversations most of the time

There’s nothing wrong with initiating conversations. But you’re reading this because you often scare men away and you’re looking for a solution. One of the top reasons as to why men run away from a person they’re chatting with is because the other is too transparent.

This transparency can lead to thoughts of dependency and desperation. If a man is interested in you, he will have no problems in sending the first greeting.

6. Relax, don’t invest in one person

Joining My Ladyboy Date and only talking to one man will be the cardinal mistake that you’ll make. You have to widen your net and avoid blind loyalty. You don’t know the other person from the other end of the world yet. They’re only sharing fragments of who they are to you.

a woman smiling while a phone call

This is why you must chat with more than one man to know who’s truly the best fit for you. The saying “may the best man win” isn’t popular for no reason. Get to know more than five!

It’s not like you’re sleeping with all of them so don’t think that you’ll be a slut by doing so. If you do this, you won’t find the need to constantly talk with that person and it will shield you from turning into Little Miss Desperado. Be wise!

7. Don’t ask for gifts

Look, if you’re looking for someone to change your life, that’s fine. But don’t do it too early in the relationship. Hypergamy is not bad but it’s offputting when done incorrectly.

Besides, you don’t even have a strong bond with this person yet so the gall to ask for gifts will truly whittle your options down into a toothpick.

8. Avoid conversations about material things you desire

You’re not going to appear smart, genuine, and sincere even if you’re not asking for gifts indirectly. They will know what you’re onto if you keep speaking about material things that you dream of.

It is of nobody’s interest to know what you want most especially a guy who just started chatting with you for less than a month. Yes, they will run away if your behavior is like this.

9. Stop asking about his exes

There’s something scarier than a golddigger, it’s someone obsessive! A high-key investigation is not only offputting but also elicits fear. Constantly asking about his exes will make him think that you’re going to put him on a leash.

a woman looking her smartphone

Nobody wants to share a life with someone insecure and scheming. His past is none of your business just like how yours isn’t his. He will also think that in the future, you will spy on him because your desperation from these questions will reek of insecurity.

10.   Don’t toot your own horn

Lastly, a lot of people, not only men, become cold when they’re talking to someone who seems like their feet are not touching the ground. This will make them feel that you’re insatiable and that they’ll never be enough for you.

Yes, it’s okay to be proud of what you have in life. But if you keep on bragging, it will appear forceful and instead of being impressive, repulsive. Let other people talk about your achievements or unravel them as time passes by.

Don’t talk about all of your accolades in one sitting. Nobody’s into that.

Good luck!

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About the author

Amanda Valentine Dela Cruz
Amanda Valentine has been a writer for My Ladyboy Date for over 10 years. She writes various topics on trans dating and other trans-related content. Her personal experiences as a transgender woman have given her a unique point of view on trans topics. She has written 5 books on trans women’s relationships and has made it on Amazon’s best-seller list. Her book “Dating Transgender Women for Gentlemen” reached #3 on the Transgender Studies category on Amazon. Her love for writing started when she won a poetry contest in 4th grade which made her pursue a career in literature.

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