What is it about Chemistry (Connection)?
Lovers do, lovers don’t. It may sound generic but still – it is what it is. But what is it really that makes a relationship work especially in the Transgender Dating scene? Is it physical attraction? Curves in the right places? Common hobbies? Or maybe, inner beauty? No one can ever tell.
They say a relationship is a long-term commitment and to always look forward to what two people can have ahead of them – together. It’s a lot of hardwork and it takes out a little more of YOU most of the time. Have you ever wondered what these other people have done and gained after all those years of being together?
My Experience
I have met a few couples (straight, gay, and Transgender alike) whom I have gotten the chance to have had conversations with. Being single is OK but it gets a bit strangely difficult if you see these happy couples telling me their “love stories” and how they managed to cope up with basically, everything around them.
It just makes me wish I could have been anything but “single” [wink]. So how does it work really? Surprisingly, they only have one common thing to say… “One can never choose a partner and can honestly say he/she is the one! It takes time. It takes “chemistry” and some time to unravel what two people have in common and all the differences that go along with it.” Of course, it can never be denied that everything starts in physical attraction.
Chemistry
You don’t get that eagerness to know a person if you’re not somehow “physically” stimulated by him/her. Then there comes the getting-to-know stage wherein you tend to know each other more beyond what you see on the outside. Then you discover “Chemistry”.
In the context of relationships, chemistry is a complex “emotion” that two people get when they share a special connection. It is not necessarily sexual. It is the impulse making one think “I need to see this [other] person again” – that feeling of “we click”. It is very early in one’s relationship that they can intuitively work out whether they have positive or negative chemistry. – [From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia]
How I feel about “Chemistry”
What is “chemistry” in my own point of view? Chemistry is everything. It is Time. It is patience. It is understanding. It is good rapport. It is trust. It is the ability to give more than to receive. It is that moment when one can then live without the presence of the other in a 24-hour cycle and still feels you belong.
It is when you can live each other’s lives apart but still think and feel as One. It is when at the end of the day, whether you’re physically distant or not, that you will look forward to waking up the following morning thinking only of the things that you can do together. That for me is “Chemistry”. It is the Science of Love.
Possibilities?
Is it possible in this Online Transgender Dating setup? It is not important how a relationship began or how two people met. May it be in some busy streets, like meeting ladyboys in Thailand, the subway or the calmest beach out there or in the strangest places you can imagine, such as bumping to a ladyboy in London? What’s more important is what happens next after that. It takes a lot of patience to get to where these old couples have gone so far.
So now we ask ourselves – Are we up for the challenge? Do we have the right amount of time and persistence to get there? Are we in fact “ready” to start even? Are we prepared to rule and be ruled? These questions come puzzling everytime they cross my mind and may have crossed your minds as well and feel the same way. Sometimes I wish it’s a lot easier. Then again, nothing as worthy as a true and a lasting “love story” comes easy to people, I suppose. So I will always be up for the challenge. Are you?
Note: Though Chemistry is a “nice-to-have”, too much of it can blind a person’s ability to think rationally. Love is not blind. It sees everything (wink).
