How to Spot a Guy Who’ll Just Keep You a Secret

You’re not here to be someone’s late-night secret. You deserve to be seen, respected, and loved out loud. But sadly, some guys on ladyboy dating sites are only looking for hidden flings, not honest relationships. They might seem sweet at first, but their actions tell a different story. Here are some signs that a guy might be planning to keep you in the shadows instead of bringing you into the light.

No video calls or face in photos

If someone’s profile has no clear photos or always uses old, heavily filtered ones, it could be a sign they’re not being honest or proud about who they are. When they also avoid video calls, claiming they’re too busy or not “camera-ready,” it’s a red flag.

Real connections happen face to face, even if it starts through a screen. If a guy is serious, he’ll want to see you and let you see him. Mystery can be fun, but too much of it usually means something’s being hidden.

Early talk of secrecy like “no one can know” before things even start

When someone leads with comments like “keep this between us” or “don’t tell anyone we’re talking,” that’s not romantic, it’s isolating. It’s one thing to value privacy, but secrecy is different.

Being a secret from the start often means they already plan to keep you one forever. If someone isn’t ready to stand beside you openly, you’ll always be hidden in the shadows of their life.

Messages only come late at night, never during the day

Consistent late-night messages can mean you’re just a distraction, not a priority. If someone never checks in during the day or only appears after dark, you might just be part of their quiet hours and not their real life.

Love and connection don’t keep vampire hours. Someone who truly wants to know you will find time in the daylight too, even just for a “how’s your day?” text.

Always suggests private meetups

When all their plans are about “chilling at home” or “hanging out somewhere private,” it’s often not about being close, but it’s about keeping things hidden.

A guy who’s proud to be with you won’t be afraid to step outside and show you off. If you’re never invited to real dates or public spaces, ask yourself why, and don’t settle for staying hidden behind closed doors.

Avoids social media, won’t connect, or says “I don’t use apps like that”

Social media might not define a person, but it does offer clues about whether they’re being real. If someone avoids adding you, refuses to follow back, or claims they don’t use social apps “like that,” it might be because they don’t want others to see you.

Being offline isn’t a crime but refusing to connect at all can mean they’re trying to keep you in a separate part of their life. Real relationships don’t exist in secret corners.

Never talks about the future or uses “we” when planning things

If a guy avoids any kind of future talk, whether it’s as small as planning next weekend or as big as a trip together, it could be a sign he doesn’t see this going anywhere long-term.

A man who sees you in his life won’t be scared to imagine things with you, even in playful ways. If it’s always “I” and never “we,” don’t waste your heart on someone who’s only here for now.

Changes the subject when you bring up serious topics

When you try to talk about how you feel, what you’re looking for, or how you want to be treated, and he dodges or jokes about it, that’s not cute, that’s avoidance. Someone who values you won’t run away from real conversations. If he’s uncomfortable with honesty now, he’ll definitely hide you later.

Says he’s “not ready” to be public because of work, family, or culture

While everyone has their own journey, this phrase is often used as an excuse to delay or never go public. If he says he’s not ready to introduce you or even mention you, ask yourself if he ever will be. You deserve someone who chooses you with pride and not someone who uses delay as a disguise for fear or shame.

Keeps flirting but never deepens the bond

If every conversation stays playful and never goes deeper—no real questions, no getting to know each other, it’s likely he’s not looking for anything real.

Real connection needs more than flirty emojis and compliments. If the talk doesn’t grow, the relationship won’t either.

Says he loves ladyboys but never treats you like a real partner

There’s a difference between being into ladyboys and being ready to love one openly, respectfully, and fully. If he keeps you in a box labeled “fantasy” and not “girlfriend,” that’s a problem.

You are more than a label. Don’t stay with someone who only loves the idea of you but can’t show up for the real you. If you’ve been kept in the dark, made to feel like a secret, or are just tired of the same shady patterns, know this: you deserve to be seen, loved, and respected out loud.

No more hiding. No more half-effort. Join My Transgender Date today and connect with people who are proud to date ladyboys. Where real love is out in the open, just like you should be.