Is He Serious or Just Curious Signs to Watch For as a Ladyboy

Dating online as a ladyboy can be exciting but also confusing. Some guys slide into your DMs full of charm and compliments, only to vanish or reveal they weren’t looking for anything real. It’s important to spot whether a man is truly interested in you, or just dipping his toes into something he doesn’t fully respect or understand. Here are signs to help you figure out where he really stands so you don’t waste time on someone who isn’t ready.

He only messages late at night or when he’s bored

If he only pops up when the sun goes down or when he has nothing better to do, chances are he’s not that serious. A guy who’s genuinely interested will want to check in on you throughout the day—not just when he’s lonely or looking for a quick thrill.

Real effort shows in timing. Morning texts, midday check-ins, or thoughtful messages show you’re on his mind. But if you feel like an option instead of a priority, trust your gut. Love doesn’t clock in only after dark.

He avoids using your name or correct pronouns

When someone won’t even get the basics right like your name or pronouns, that’s a big red flag. Saying “someone like you” turns your identity into a novelty instead of treating you like a real person.

You deserve to be addressed with respect. If he can’t handle that or constantly slips up without trying to correct himself, he’s not ready. Being “curious” isn’t an excuse to be careless with your dignity.

He asks more about your body than your life, dreams, or what makes you laugh

A serious guy will want to know you, your favorite movie, your future plans, the stories that make you giggle. If all he asks about is what’s in your pants or starts conversations with flirty, invasive questions, he’s not seeing you as a full person.

It’s okay to enjoy chemistry, but there’s a line. If the convo never goes beyond the physical, step back and ask: would he still be talking to me if I didn’t answer those questions? If not, you already know the answer.

He won’t hop on a video call or keeps dodging any plan to meet face-to-face

If he keeps saying “soon” but never sets a real time to meet or video chat, he might be hiding something or someone. Serious men want to see and connect with the person they like. They’re not scared of showing their face.

Video calls help build trust and confirm you’re both real. If he makes excuses every time or vanishes when you bring it up, he’s not prioritizing you. Someone who genuinely likes you won’t be afraid to look you in the eye.

He gets awkward or nervous when you talk about being seen together in public

Does he suddenly change the topic when you mention going out for coffee? Or hesitate when you ask if he’d ever introduce you to a friend? That hesitation often means he’s still dealing with shame, fear, or confusion, and you shouldn’t be the one to fix that.

Being proud to be with you is non-negotiable. You deserve someone who holds your hand proudly, not someone who hides you in the shadows. If he can’t own the connection, he’s not ready for something real.

He says “I’m not ready for a relationship, but…” and keeps you in limbo

When a guy tells you he’s not ready for anything serious but still wants to talk every day, flirt, and get your attention—it’s a setup for confusion. He might enjoy your presence but isn’t planning to build anything real.

If he’s not clear about what he wants, and you find yourself hoping he’ll change his mind, pause. You’re not here to be someone’s maybe. You’re here for mutual clarity and care, not emotional breadcrumbs.

He follows lots of ladyboys but never engages seriously with any

If his social media is full of follows and likes on ladyboy profiles, but he rarely has genuine conversations or never asks meaningful questions, that says a lot. It’s like window shopping without any real interest in buying.

A serious guy doesn’t just collect eye candy. He invests his time and attention in one connection that matters. If he’s just floating around everyone’s inbox without showing consistency, it’s not you, it’s him.

He makes you feel unsure, anxious, or always second-guessing

When you’re talking to someone who’s serious, you feel safe, excited, and valued. But if you’re always overthinking what you said, worrying if he’ll ghost, or wondering where you stand, it’s not a real connection.

Your peace matters more than any flirtation. If someone stirs up more insecurity than joy, trust that. Real interest doesn’t feel confusing. It feels calm, even when it’s new.

He’s quick to get flirty but slow to get real

Flirty banter is fun, but if that’s all he brings to the table, it gets old fast. When you try to go deeper, ask about his goals, family, values, but he avoids it, he’s not building anything with substance.

If every convo feels like a game and not a genuine moment, take note. Real connection includes fun and depth. You’re not just here for play. You’re here for partnership.

He disappears for days and then acts like nothing happened

This one’s a classic. If he vanishes without explanation and comes back with a “hey beautiful” like he never left, it means he’s not taking your time or feelings seriously.

A serious man respects consistency. You don’t have to chase or wonder where he went. If his presence is random, so is his interest. Let someone else play the games. You’re looking for something grown and grounded.

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