Define yourself in your own terms. In terms of gender, race, anything. We are not what other people say we are. We are who we know ourselves to be, and we are what we love. That's OK. You're not alone in who you are. There are people out there who will love and support you. It's about doing the work and believing and finding those peopleif they're not in your local community, there's somebody online that you can talk to for support.