You’re a good guy. Everyone around you says so and you know yourself to the core that you’re not a stereotypical asshole. You’re doing your best. All your efforts always exceed a hundred percent, somehow, your ladyboy date doesn’t seem to trust you.
Being ladyboy myself, I have my fair share of heartbreaks. I’m not going to write about how I coped with each one but just to let you know, one of those turned me really jaded and insecure. I’m not trying to justify the actions of your ladyboy date and you’ll know as to why once you finish this article.
Let’s continue by talking about this person who has been draining you out.
Is she already your girlfriend?
If so, it’s going to be a lot more complicated. If you’ve been together with her for quite some time and something in her has changed, it’s probably because you did something subconsciously. Please know that I’m not putting the blame on you. It’s just easier to start with you because it’s less invasive (channeling my inner fertility doctor). If you’re certain that you’re a good person and you’re innocent as to why she’s turning into someone that you barely know, having an intervention with her is of paramount importance.
Be very specific with the changes you’ve noticed from her and talk about how you can gain her trust back. If she makes a valid point on why she’s starting to have doubts and you’re open to compromise for the sake of love, go for it. However, if she doesn’t have anything concrete to show you, remember to quote “Cat got your tongue?” on her.
You’re not at fault and she’s lying but you want to keep the relationship
Always remember that if a person accuses you of infidelity without any evidentiary support (you go Atty. Amanda), chances are that the person is using it as a defense mechanism for you do not have any doubts from her wrong-doing. Invoke your inner Sherlock Holmes and figure out things. Trust me, it’s fun!
However, if it’s not just infidelity and she’s doubting you with other things like she’s not as proud of you as she was before or she’s doubting just about anything and contradicting all of your plans, you have to consider if you want to keep walking on eggshells. To be honest, I learned a good trick on how to know if a relationship is worth keeping from my favorite show Sex and The City. Carrie Bradshaw (Sarah Jessica Parker), asks Miranda (Cynthia Nixon), to make a list with a PROS and CONS column and to see which is longer. It’s very smart to know that love can turn a smart person dumb. It can help though…
She’s just a ladyboy date
It turns out that she’s already a bitch from the get-go. Ask Cordelia Fox to cast a protection spell and run far away. You don’t need that negative energy in your life. This is the perfect time to end a relationship because you’re not emotionally invested yet. Unless it’s love at first sight, you’re under the sex haze, or you’re very shallow and just find her physically insatiable.
Anyway, may the odds be in your favor.