Transgenders are the most sensitive persons that you will ever meet. If you are not familiar with them or it’s your first encounter with a transwoman, then you better watch your actions carefully. “Think before you speak” I know you are curious like everybody else but you need to understand that transgenders are human beings, we have emotions and we get offended. Not to mention even the word ladyboy is very offensive mostly for American transgenders.
Which I totally understand since media is giving an offensive view towards such word associating it into decent photos and videos. And there is an ongoing series about ladyboys in UK, which somehow shows a different side of ladyboys but there are still transgender advocates from Europe who are intolerant in using the word ladyboy.
Although Myladyboydate.com is an advocate for transgenders we are still taking the risk of using ladyboy in our title for we wish to make a change. And such change will be tackled in our next article.Mean while here are three major questions that is a big no no while conversing with a transsexuals.
Should I refer you as SHE or HE?
Obviously,if you see a woman wearing dress or even simple girls stuff like tight jeans and a sexy top, you have to use the correct pronoun. Someone who identifies herself as a woman prefers feminine words such as she or her. Let me give you tip on this, if it is hard for you to refer her as She or, try to train yourself by the name they ask you to use.
Are you TOP or Bottom?
Never ask this stupid question. It is surely an insult. Telling people that she is a transgender woman is a very difficult thing to say it out loud. Literally, if you ask this question, it is exactly like you ask your own blood sister either is she still a virgin or not. Awkwardness to THE POWER OF 10! It is best to keep the sex preferences near to your heart and hers. Never ever asked this in public or even upfront.
So that means your boyfriend is gay?
Being in a relationship with a transgender woman is not easy, yet you still have the confidence to pour those poison inside her by asking about her boyfriend’s sex orientation. It is so obvious that, in a relationship with a transgender woman is like any other relationship with something “extra”.Love knows no gender that is the rule. If you are really so curios about this topic then asked it in a nice way with an introduction saying that you are interested with this topic. If you do not know how to do it then do your own research. It’s better and safer.
Friends some people believe that the best “medicine” for a person being transgender is to understand them. But i believe that is the wrong “prescription”. The best “cure” for a transgender woman is to ACCEPT them and treat them like other human being. This is because, all of us are human beings that stay under one roof which is EARTH. Let us make Earth become the most heaven-ish place in the universe.