This is a pure myth, so some of the ladyboys do not believe it, but most of them do. Knowing that Thailand is a Buddhist country with 80 percent of the population practising Buddhism. Their belief somehow contributed to some of the ladyboys explanation why they existed. And this is one of the most amazing fact about ladyboys that we encountered while our stay in Thailand.
Ladies, this entry is for you. There have already been dating tips for guys, but now the tables need to be turned so that you have some tips as well.
Have a good attitude about things
The guys who take the time to get to know you probably have a good idea about how rough it can be a ladyboy in the Philippines, Malaysia and other countries. A good attitude and personality though will trump a girl who is using her looks to get with someone. They may look absolutely gorgeous, but if their personality is poor and her outlook on life isn’t a good one, then that can definitely be a deal breaker, regardless of how beautiful she is.
Sometimes online dating can be quite challenging for us ladyboys especially when we are completely clueless about the guy that we are talking to. Even he says he loves you, somehow you still don’t feel the security and you’re like hanging on a cliff might let go of you any moment. Now how can we now that he is the right one? Are there any signs that we can look for that will lead us choosing the man that we deserve? Yes there is. However, behaviour of guys still varies from individual’s personality and that could be possible reason why not all signs can be seen from him.
Now that’s a point of grammar that will either get trans organisations to issue a fatwa (against me, as usual) or maybe make them agree with me (for once). I’m personally fond of studying languages and how they evolve through time (latin languages being my favourites). I believe languages are not set in stone and evolve through time, and that words are tied to the culture of those who use them (and that the same word can be understood and felt differently from a place or another, as for the example of “ladyboy” which would get any transsexual upset in the USA, but is perfectly owned and employed by Thais). And that’s making our world beautiful
So last month we translated our site into Spanish! We are actually starting to translate our site into as many languages as possible, since we have vocation of being the number one international dating site for the transgender community. And I am being very perfectionist, I want our translations to be of the best quality possible (I told you I’m a language lover).
The man who did the Spanish version is a well educated man (American living in Mexico) who’s as close to the trans community as I am. Though we encountered a problem: “transgender” doesn’t seem to officially exist in Spanish. As gender translates with “género” in Spanish (noun, m), “transgender” would translate with “transgénero” (adj, m). But various dictionaries will return various results (or not return anything):
Do you think dating a ladyboy that could possibly turn out to be a committed relationship is just a fetish? Well let’s define fetish first.
Fetish as an object or bodily part whose real or fantasised presence is psychologically necessary for sexual gratification and that is an object of fixation to the extent that it may interfere with complete sexual expression (Merriam Dictionary)
Obviously basing from this definition dating a transgender woman is far from what we call a fetish. And a man who is dating a ladyboy cannot be called a fetishist.
“Hi baby, I think I want to to get to know you better?”
Yeah right! You want to get to know an asian ladyboy better by asking her to take off her clothes in front of the camera right? The famous “I want to get to know you better” phrase is a rusty gesture from men when they start chatting with a ladyboy. Rusty as it is that comes with a sad fact that there are still transgender women who fall for this cam show traps through the magic of dating and the getting to know process. For me it is already a red flag to start a conversation like this. I for once have encountered men when I was still in the dating scene. Now that I am working for a decent ladyboy dating site this line still exists. Ladyboy members from our site or even random messages from our Facebook page asked: why men seek for cam shows?
Are you treating a ladyboy like a woman should be treated? Asked yourself if you have treated a ladyboy differently from biological women. Regardless if you say yes or no, I am sure you have not treated her just like women should be treated. And that is either because you do not have dated a biological woman before or simply you see ladyboys differently from biological women. History wise , transsexual women have more interesting and unique history over biological women but when it comes to dating, trust me we are very a like! As a transgender woman I know better how my fellow transsexual women like to be treated. So what men need to do in order to treat ladyboys like a woman? Here are my list and don’t forget to take down notes!
“But aren’t all ladyboys prostitutes?” she asked.
I have heard this so many times, from idiots, from educated people, from those who never leave their homes and from world travelers. I dropped my shoulders, and relaxed as hot breaths poured from my lungs.
“No, most ladyboys are not prostitutes.”
Does your ladyboy girlfriend getting cold in bed even if both of you are very fond of each other? Fear not guys, there is nothing wrong with you. Lose of her sexual urge is just normal if she is under Hormone Replacement Therapy (HRT). Prolong use of these medications will result less production of semen and lose of libido. But don’t worry, there are foods and beverages just around the kitchen, grocery stores and even restaurant that might help your ladyboy girlfriend get back into action any time of the day.
Facebook the number one social networking site shows how diverse they are by being gender sensitive. They have updated the limited options of gender from male and female previously to a custom gender according to individuals identity. They are now giving the users to present them selves as who they are. Facebook gives the opportunity for few if not many to show their real selves and to be open about their true identity and that is not just limited to male and female. Here are screen shots showing the list of genders that you can choose from.